Thursday, June 8, 2017

Thoughts for Thursday: Confessions

If we were sitting down having coffee together this morning, there would be a lot on my heart to share with you. A few things we would talk about: 


\\ Julie mentioned on her blog a few weeks ago how she's cut down on the play dates with friends, because she noticed when she did, she got more quality time with her boys. I was a bit hesitant at first to do that, but once I cut back our play dates to one or two a week {as opposed to four or five}, I have felt like I've gotten so much more quality time in with my boys. Yes, it does make the days feel a bit longer, but I close my eyes at night feeling so positive about the special one-on-one {well, I guess one-on-two} time I've gotten with my boys. So thanks, Julie! ;) 

\\ Speaking of the boys, Walker started karate on Monday and y'all, it has been great for him. My aunt is a therapist for Early Childhood Intervention {with a focus on kids ages 0-3}, and she mentioned that karate is great to help teach kids discipline, respect and self-control, all of which our little "threenager" needs some constant reminders of these days. But seriously, he can't see me through the two-way glass mirror, and I think that helps a lot. And it's just precious to watch him put on his little uniform and see him in action out there on the mat. It's a bit hectic wrangling Knox in the waiting area twice a week during the witching hour, but hey, I'm willing to bring all the snacks, toys and games for him if it benefits Walker! 

\\ The dreaded Mom Guilt has been rearing its ugly head lately and making me second-guess putting Walker in preschool for three days a week in the fall. Although I know he will do great and will prepare him for Kindergarten in a mere two years {sob}, I know I'm also going to miss him, too. Thankfully it's only five hours a day. ;) 

\\ I mentioned it on my Instagram Stories a couple of weeks ago, but Knox isn't walking. At all. He's been checked for hip dysplasia {negative} and has been tested to see if he can appropriately bear weight on his legs {positive}...and the pediatrician thinks it's simply a lack of caring. Lovely. He is a super fast crawler -- and I do mean speedy quick -- and has a three-year-old brother who gives him anything and everything he wants, so he just knows he can get to where he needs to go by crawling and/or from his brother. He'll walk behind his walker toy, but really only does it for a minute and wants to get down and crawl away and play with his cars and trucks. So, that's been fun. And the questions I get, statements made to me, {and accompanying looks, too} are the best

+ "So, do you just not work with him?" [No, I just sit on my butt all day staring at him.] 
+ "Well, my kid was walking at nine months!" [Snaps for your kid!] 
+ "Oh, I'm so sorry." [Me too.] 
+ "He really needs to be standing unassisted on his own by now." [Thank you, I had no idea.] 

It's just been hard to hear, hard to witness and hard to not compare him to his brother, who was walking before his first birthday. I know he'll do it when he's ready and on his own time -- and won't go to Kindergarten not walking -- but your mom heart just hurts a bit when you want your kid to do what others his own age {or younger} are doing and he won't due to his own stubborn will. 

\\ But speaking of things Knox does do, he has started saying, "Mmmm-mah!" when he gives kisses and it melts my heart into a thousand tiny pieces. He also knows our little bedtime routine and, as soon as I close his favorite book and switch on his sound machine, he immediately starts saying, "Shhh, shhh, shhhh!" It gets me every time! He's also my little cuddle bug and lays his head on my shoulder for a few minutes each morning after he wakes up and I just love that precious time with him. 

\\ I am getting to the point where I absolutely love this blog and all of the precious ladies I have met through it, but I don't ever want it to become a "job" or feel like one. I do it because I love the creative outlet and the sweet friends I've made through it -- not for the {very little} money, fun stuff we get to try out, or companies I've been thankful to work with. If I ever feel like I'm getting affirmation from the number of "likes" on my Instagram posts or comments on my blog, then I'm in it for the wrong reasons. All of that to say, thank you to those of you who stop by this space to read about our {probably boring} day-to-day life. Some of you have probably never commented, but just know how much I appreciate you stopping by my little place of the Internet. 

I hope this didn't all sound like whining, but man, it feels good to get some of this off my chest. Thank you for "listening" to me today!


Linking up with Annie, Natalie and Julie

13 comments:

  1. So glad walker likes karate! I've got to check into it for jack. Friend, do not worry about Knox walking! Remember I went through the same thing just a few mknths ago and look at graham
    Now! He didn't walk until 15 months. It's so hard not to stress over it, I know!! And also... don't let the mom guilt creep in ab school. Heck jack is going 4 mornings a week. Haha. Walker will love it. And it will give him structure and routine!! I view it as they are doing way more fun things than he would be doing with me at home haha.

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  2. I had two girls who walked before one year. Then my third was a boy. He didn't walk until 17 months!!!! I heard all the comments and spent many sleepless nights worrying. He just had no interest I guess. I know what you're going through, it'll happen on his time! You're a great mom!

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  3. You know how I feel about the comparison game with babies, and you know that I have been in your shoes. You are 100% right, he will be walking by kindergarten just like all of the other 'advanced' babies ;-)
    I work so I know my situation is different, but they really are only little and get to be at home for such a short period in life, so there is no harm in reevaluating keeping him home for some extra time..the days are long, but the years (is it really on two more!?) are short!

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  4. My first didn't walk until almost 15 months. My second walked at 10 months. I don't feel like we did anything differently. It's amazing how unique each child is! I remember the guilt with my first though. Just remember you're doing a great job!

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  5. Late walker here. I took my first steps at 16 months (or perhaps 18 months?). Just wasn't concerned with being on my own two feet when I was either being carried or getting around on all fours just fine. A family at church's son also started walking around 18 months (on the day of the women's march, no less!), and I say it's because his older siblings liked carrying him so much, he saw no need! And, I've run five half marathons so can say that late walking doesn't impact you later in life!

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  6. One of my favorite quotes is "Comparison is the thief of joy," it's so true in so many instances! Sweet Knox will be walking like crazy as soon as he's ready but I'm sure it's hard to wait on that day! SO glad karate is working out for Walker!

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  7. I love your blog and love that I got to know you from it! I'm so so glad to hear Walker is loving karate! It sounds like that is going to be a great outlet for him. And yay for more quality time with the boys--I know they love that too.

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  8. I have been a long-time reader of your blog for the reasons you mention in this post. You're real, authentic and so down to earth. I love how you share about your boys, because I can totally relate all the time since Shep and Beau are such close ages as your boys. You are an INCREDIBLE mama, don't ever doubt it. And for the record, Shep was one of those super fast walkers (10 months) but Beau literally started walking like one month ago. They all have their own timelines. But good for you for taking all the right steps - he'll get there! Hugs!

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    1. Thank you so much for your sweet, honest words, friend! So thankful for you!

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  9. My brother was a super crawler, too, and therefore, he took his sweet time learning to walk! And when you think about it, if I could crawl faster than I could walk, I'd probably do the same thing! Just give it some time, and keep being the amazing mama that you are!

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  10. Long time reader but have never commented before. I have a lot to do with early childhood education over here (Australia) and see the walking/crawling thing all the time. I've encountered several parents that demand that we get them walking since it's 'our job' because they're with us all day! It's definitely down to the individual child's personality and mobility preferences and not their home/care environment and what is/isn't being done there. I've seen 16 month old kiddies who don't even pull up to standing and prefer to crawl everywhere suddenly go from that to walking in no time flat so yep it'll happen when it's meant to happen. Don't let other people's misguided comments on it get to you - from reading your blog posts you're a tuned in, caring and great mum :)

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  11. Girl you are doing such a great job of momming these two perfect boys! Knox will walk when he's ready, try not to stress over it! Every baby is different and I know it's hard not to compare him to Walker but he just turned a year! My niece didn't walk until 16ish months

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