Thursday, June 29, 2017

Thoughts for Thursday: Coffee Talk

If we were sitting down having coffee together this morning, there would be a lot on my heart to share with you. A few things we would talk about:



\\ We leave for the beach Saturday and I have not one thing packed. I'm really going to have to get my act together and hustle today. 

\\ That said, I've been doing the "Mom Shuttle Service" this week and I'm worn smooth out. Swimming lessons Tuesday-Friday mornings, karate Monday and Tuesday afternoons, Knox's one-year portraits tomorrow morning, packing four people for the beach today and did I mention that our A/C blower started acting up and that had to be replaced yesterday (cha-ching, cha-ching!). Oh, and did I also mention my husband has been out of the country? So there's that. #sendallthewine

\\ I'm kind of in denial that it's almost July. The days seem so long sometimes, but then I change my calendar over yet another time and realize that Walker's been out of school for a month and a half and am just baffled by how quickly the time is going. It's going to be the first day of school, football season and Halloween before we know it. 

\\ I feel like I'm the party planner/Cruise Director for my husband's side of the family, and it kind of gets old after a while. Sometimes I want to take a step back and just see if any get togethers get planned, flowers get delivered or gifts get purchased. Does anyone else feel like this in their family? 

\\ I got really frustrated at BurgaBox recently. I had purchased a trial box for Brandon for Father's Day, and selected the Thursday before Father's Day as the delivery day, as we were going to be gone over Father's Day weekend. I kept waiting and waiting for a shipping confirmation, but never got one. It took me reaching out to them via email, Twitter, Instagram and filling out a form on their website to get a reply, which was that my box was shipping out late due to "freshness" and "demand." After explaining for the second time that I needed it by Thursday -- the day I selected upon checkout -- they finally cancelled my box and refunded me my money...three days later. They did tell me in an email that if I ever wanted to try them again to please reach out and they'd offer me a discount code. Brandon was really excited when I told him what I was going to get him for Father's Day and said, "Hey, let's just try it again. Reply to their email and ask for the discount code so we can order one." Well, I did and I never got a response back. I'd love to try them again sometime, but I was really disappointed in their service, sadly. 

\\ Knox still isn't walking, and our pediatrician is recommending he start physical therapy to get those two little legs a'movin' in order to be proactive. He can pull up to standing, will cruise around a table or chairs, crawls like a fast little maniac across the house, walks with his walker, pulls up on everythingggggg...but won't stand unassisted and won't walk. Simply put, he's lazy. And oh, my word. The comments! They're still coming, y'all! I've used some great remarks I've received from many of y'all, including: "Well, I don't think they're going to ask him when he started walking on his first job interview," but man, for some reason, people get realllllllly smug about their own kid {instead of sympathetic and empathetic} in instances like these. People also get so defensive! "Why is your pediatrician recommending physical therapy at THIRTEEN MONTHS?! My kid didn't walk until 18 months." Okay, well, I'm going to follow the medical advice of someone with 764 degrees, but thank you anyway! 

And when I say all of this above, I realize that every child is different, and I in no way, shape or form am trying to be disrespectful to someone with bigger issues. This is important in our world right now and while it may seem that I'm making a big deal about it, I'm trying to be open, honest and transparent with y'all. Our life isn't always sunshine and roses and I'm not going to pretend like it is. I'm not trying to be insensitive to anyone with bigger issues; everyone always has a bigger issue than the next person, but that doesn't mean that it's less important or significant to them. 

\\ Am I a horrible mother if I scrap a birthday party for Walker next year and instead spend money to take him to Great Wolf Lodge {his favorite place} overnight with Brandon and me and out to a fun dinner? Is it also horrible that he's only 3.5 and I'm already over the whole birthday party stuff? Maybe it's having a second kid that's done it to me, but man, I'm getting to the point where I'm ready to spend money on memories and experiences {read: FOR MY KID} than I am on impressing other adults with parties. Just thinking out loud here. 

I hope this all didn't sound like whining, but man, it feels good to get some of this off my chest. Thank you for "listening" to me today! 


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10 comments:

  1. I can't believe ya'll leave for the beach tmw! so exciting but man getting everyone packed is a pain in the butt. Totally agree about burgabox..we will see if ours comes this week like they promised. I know there are so many opinions about Knox walking. Its hard not to compare or to worry but I know he will walk in no time. He's following right along with Grahammy, who didn't walk until 15 months. But I definitely wouldn't hesitate to start PT, it can't hurt at all! I think I'm going to do a very small joint party for the boys this year, I may even just do a cookout on halloween night with all their friends..since they are the same haha.

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  2. I was just having the convo with my mom about unsolicited advice and how awful and annoying it is!

    Obviously you will do what you feel is best for you and Knox but if it makes you feel even a little better my daughter who is just a few days younger isn't walking yet either. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

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  3. Beeeeach! Keep your eyes on the prize and you be in vacay mode before you know it! I'm with you on the mom shuttle because seth has been gone all week but I know you have TWO! (Also, if it helps at all, Andi didn't walk until 14 months) have a great day friend! Muah!

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  4. Unsolicited advice can be irritating. I've tried to learn through the years just to take what I can and leave the rest. Most of the time people are really just trying to be helpful. And of course you should work with your pediatrician and do what you agree is best, but if it makes you feel better I have four kids and none of them walked at 13 months - our pediatrician wasn't concerned so we didn't do physical therapy but your doctor is the one evaluating them in person so maybe they are seeing things other people aren't. All that to say - people are probably just trying to make you feel better so don't take it too personally :)

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  5. Oh yes to me always doing all the planning for each and every event for the in-laws -- my husband would never get his parents a mother's day/father's day gift, remember anyone's birthdays in his family, the niece/nephew's bdays, etc. It gets so old! So relateable, thanks for making me feel like I am not the only one!

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  6. My baby boy was 15 months he will be totally fine try to feel at ease ! We did physical therapy also and it is a really fun time actually! I remember liking it because it gave us games to play at home that were also medically helpful! So jelly of the beach tomorrow can't wait to live vicariously ha :) andddd no blame on the birthday idea I'm all about experiences over decorations this year as well... took me until his 6 year though ;)

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  7. I'm in denial that it's almost July, too! On the one hand, I'm wishing for time to speed up because I want my husband back, but on the other hand, I just want the summer to last forever!

    Oh, and solidarity on not packing yet haha we leave for Maine this weekend. Whoops?

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  8. Girl I totally feel you on the party planner thing. I coordinate ALL presents/birthdays/etc for my husband's side. Like they aren't even my parents, why am I buying the mother's day gifts and cooking the dinner by myself (with his help of course). Also, I am SO on board with spending money on memories versus extravagant parties. This has been me and Garrett's goal since we got married. We don't do any gifts for Christmas or our anni, we vow to go on a trip together once a year though! SO MUCH BETTER than material things!

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  9. Love this!! Girl, I feel you on the event things. Thankfully, I just let things lie with my in-laws and either don't plan anything (and nothing happens) or collaborate with my SIL lol It's so nice when I text her and I'm like "you getting so and so something for this small holidy? nope, nope me either then" Haha!! I am in such denial that it's July, our July is jam packed and we won't have a break until August which means summer is over and we missed it... fail. I hope you have a wonderful beach vacation!

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  10. Such a great post, Brit! One of my twin girls has worked with a physical therapist since she was 9 months old. She needed a bit of motivation to get going too and I'm so glad we took this approach. Her therapist provided me such a great sounding board and offered all kinds of wonderful suggestions- things this Type A mom would have never thought about! Go with your gut girl! ❤️

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