Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Tuesday Things: Why I Don't Do "Goals"

If you ask my husband my least favorite song in the world, he'd quickly tell you: "Auld Lang Syne." (And then he'd sing it at the top of his lungs just to spite me. Ha!) But in all seriousness, I despise that song. It's so depressing. It reminds me that Christmas is over and that I have to put away all of my cheery Christmas d├ęcor…even though it felt a little suffocating to me this year and I was happy to have a bit more space in our tiny house. (#nesting) 

And even though I'm always excited about the clean slate a new year brings, it also reminds me of the fun things that have passed in the previous year. Plus, January is my least favorite month. Just throwing that out there. ;) It's cold; there's no holidays that justify the coldness; and by the time that month rolls around, I'm ready for spring to get here like nobody's business. 

But anyhoodle, 2015 was good to us: I was able to quit my job to do my dream one: stay home with Walker; I got pregnant, even though it was a huge surprise; we traveled to Jamaica to celebrate our anniversary a few months early; and we celebrated many a holiday with friends and family, creating our own little traditions along the way. 'Twas a good year. 

But 2016 will be a great year, as long as no one sings that dreaded song to me. ;) We'll get to meet this sweet baby in a few short months. And even though we'll be back to square one with a newborn baby and all that that brings, and I'm scared to death how I'm going to handle two children -- a two-year-old and a newborn -- it will be glorious welcoming this baby. I can't wait to hold him/her and see how Walker reacts to his new sibling. Even though I know I'll be finding the nearest "adult" to help me "adult" a little more. {Seriously, kids, don't grow up. It's a trap! -Peter Pan…ish} 

And all of that to say, that's why I don't do "goals." I hate to be disappointed, especially in myself, and without getting all "white space" and "giving myself grace" over here, I don't like to set monthly or yearly goals for myself for that very reason. It's not that I'm lazy, and I've never really been a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kind of girl -- I'm more of a "why put off tomorrow what you could get done today-type person" -- but goals have never been something that rank high on my priority or to-do list. I kind of like to live by this mantra: 

…because I probably repeat this to myself about 15 times a day. I do have this. And everything will be fine. By this time next year, we'll have a seven-month-old and I know I'll have to give myself grace on a lot of things throughout the year. 

That's not to say that I wouldn't like to read more books (yeah right, I have 1.5 children right now and I fall asleep the second my head hits the pillow); get my pre-baby body back; spend less money on stupid stuff; and take more naps. Not at all. That all sounds lovely. What I'm saying is that it's okay to not write goals down with a chisel and stone and live and die by them throughout the new year. As for me, I'll be telling myself, "You got this" all day, every day in 2016. And guess what? I do! (Maybe I should chisel that into a stone somewhere…)

So to all of you out there who are setting goals next month, next year, next week: I tip my hat and raise my glass (of sparkling cider) to you. Go you! And to those of you who are just repeating, "You got this!" to yourself 30 times a day in 2016: I tip my hat and raise my glass (of sparkling cider) to you, too. We're all in this together. 

So 2016: let's do this thing. 


  1. Girl you will rock being a mamma to two littles!!! I like goals and to-do lists and if I think of them that way then I'm more apt to do it instead of the "lose 5 pounds" trap I always set haha! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

  2. I agree with Bianna. I have no doubt you are going to make an amazing mama to TWO little people! I agree with you on setting goals lately. I'm just trying to keep my head above water most days!

  3. SO exciting to think that next year you will have another little one! I love setting goals because I like to 'check things off," but I can totally see the not wanting to disappoint yourself and just know that you CAN do it!

  4. I love this! This year, my husband and I sat down and made a bucket list for the year with things we want to accomplish - not goals, but things to look forward to.
    You certainly have an exciting year to look forward to!!!

  5. Love your mantra! My boys are 21 months apart so I can definitely relate to your fear right now of managing 2 that young, but trust me you will do great and you will quickly get the hang of it. Grocery store trips are challenging, but with your positive outlook- "You got this" ;)

  6. I also don't do goals; I like to just see what happens and roll with it :)

    Happy New Year!
    Christina :: Simple and Delish

  7. Love this post! I'm not very good at setting goals, nor do I like doing it. You got this!


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