Wednesday, March 12, 2014

What I've Learned Through Blogging


I love blogging. Why? Because I get to write down things I want to remember, while simultaneously meeting new people and hearing what so many others going through the same stage of life as me have to say. I've come to know - and befriend - many ladies through this process, and I just love that! In fact, one lovely lady sent us a card after Walker was born. Where did I meet her? A blog link-up. I also love the encouraging, sweet emails I get from other bloggers, whether its about the best way to care for hardwood floors; or encouraging me about going back to the gym; or even a thank you for recommending a product. Finally, I love that I've been able to reconnect with people I went to college with that we had either lost touch or we were mere acquaintances, and now correspond via our blogs, Instagram, Facebook and/or Twitter. 

But I also hate blogging. Why? Because I feel like it can become a competition and frankly, women can be mean. There are times I've said aloud how much I wish I could just block certain people from my public blog. There are comments that pierce a little bit. But the worst? When people indirectly address you in their blogs as though it's a competition and say mean, spiteful, hurtful things. That stings. Things like that can really make you cry and wonder, "Why?" 


Recently, a lot of people have come to me - all separately, none friends with each other - noticing that a certain blogger is doing that to me. I never said a word to any of them about it, and honestly, it made me feel better to know they noticed and I wasn't just going crazy because I was sleep deprived. If I say the sky is blue, this person will rant and rave that it's green and condemn me - indirectly, of course - for daring to say it was blue. A sweet friend of mine said it best last night in a text: "It's like this person is at war with you, but I don't understand why. They are always acting like it's some sort of a competition." 

And it's reasons like that that I hate blogging sometimes. Blogging isn't a competition! Blogging is supposed to be fun. It's a place to share our thoughts and our feelings; our photos; our recipes; our weekends; our projects. And the best part is? We can follow or unfollow based on our likes, similarities and differences. Don't you just love that? 
I certainly do. 

So, I've taken the advice of another sweet friend and have hit the "unfollow" button for this person. I keep telling myself that if I don't see it, I won't know it's there and then I {hopefully} won't be upset about it anymore. But that's hard, you know? It's like a train wreck that you can't turn away from; you just keep wanting to see a little bit more, even though you know it's bad for you.

And believe you me, it's been so very hard to not say something nasty to this person! It's so hard to not publish a comment that's equally as nasty and hateful as the content of their post, or publish a post of my own addressing things they have said. But I've decided to take the high road - which is always the hardest one to take, right? - and keep my mouth shut. I've really been praying Psalm 141:3 for myself: "Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!" Because if you know me, keeping my mouth shut is not something I'm very good at. But I'm doing it in this instance.  

So, thank you to those reading this blog right now. And thank you for making it through this long, rambling, stream of consciousness post. I appreciate each one of you who stops by this little blog to catch a glimpse of our lives, and I am thankful that you know that that's exactly what it is: a glimpse. We aren't perfect, and we certainly don't pretend to be. But I'm thankful for the friendships I've made through blogging, the friends I've connected and reconnected with, and the kind, encouraging emails I've received from you. 

I'm going to vow now to really encourage, support and uplift my blogging friends. Because as women - married or single; pregnant or not pregnant; moms or not moms; working gals or stay-at-home ones - we have to encourage, love and support each other. If not, who will? 

So for now I'll leave you with this: 


All images via Pinterest 

2 comments:

  1. I LOVE this! Especially that last image, I tell my girls a variation of that all the time. You can be beautiful on the outside but if you're not pretty on the inside no one will notice.

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  2. Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry that someone is treating you this way! I love your blog & always look forward to reading your post! Kudos for taking the high road!

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