Thursday, January 24, 2013

On Judgment


I am ridiculously guilty of judging people. Judging the book by its cover, if you know what I mean. Looking at someone and judging their life without fully getting to know them, who they are, what they stand for and what makes them who they are.

Looked at someone and immediately knew we couldn't be friends because she was prettier than me, or he had more money than me, or thought I wasn't good enough for them. 

And in turn, I've also been judged for the exact same things.


I have learned a lot of things in my {short} time on this earth, but one of those that really stuck was, "Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." And I've really taken that to heart. 

Have you ever seen the movie "Runaway Bride?"  The part where she doesn't even know what kind of eggs she likes? With one guy, it's scrambled. With another its poached, etc. 



That used to be me. I didn't know what music I really liked. What decor style was really "me." Where I really liked to shop. And finally, it hit me. I had to be me and like what I liked -- because if I didn't, who was I, really? 

I kind of covered it here, but I am who I am. Take me or leave me. I don't deserve to be judged because I drink too much wine, or I don't go to church enough, or because I live in the suburbs, or because I don't make crafts on Saturdays or because my parents may be able to afford nice things. 

None of us deserve to be judged. For anything.We need to be exactly who we are and our fellow friends {and women} need to empower each other for that. Not sit back and judge someone for something petty. As the words above say, "Don't someone because they sin differently than you." 

I think with blogging, it's really easy for us to judge others and obsess over others. You might really like one blogger's New Year's resolutions and hate another's; you might agree with one blogger cloth diapering her child and think another is stupid for not doing it; you might think one blogger is super woman because she works and still has time for crafting and judge another for being a stay-at-home wife. Either way, we are who we are and we're out there doing what's best for us and our families. Who are you to judge?

So guess what? I'll tell y'all a few things about me, whether you agree or not. {Isn't this freeing?!}:

  • I hate Lilly Pulitzer. I think those clothes look like they belong on a five-year-old.
  • I'm a Republican. {Obviously.}
  • I hate crafting. Ain't nobody got time for that!
  • We are trying out new churches and no, we will not be there every single time the doors are open. We are looking for something for Sunday mornings and a way to get plugged in with other people in our community. 
  • I'm a wine snob. But I drink Black Box Wine
  • I think I'm very overweight and need to lose about 10 pounds. But I hate working out.
  • I can be passive-aggressive, but hate when people are passive-aggressive to me. 
  • It drives me crazy when I don't get a thank you note for a gift.
  • I abhor the term, "Thanks for..." when I haven't even done anything for them to thank me yet. 
  • I love sweet tea and would drink an entire gallon in one sitting if you'd let me. 
  • After I watch a TV show on a time period, era or people I find interesting, I'll Google them until I'm satisfied I know everything about them that I wanted to know. 
  • I haven't had a hair cut in about six months. My split ends are out of control.
  • Cleaning is cathartic to me.
 
So don't judge. You really never know someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes. And I know some of y'all haven't walked a mile in my size 8 1/2 giant shoes!

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