Monday, April 2, 2012

Some tips for the bride-to-be: Invitations

It's spring, so you know what that means: wedding season is among us!

I was a bride not too, too long ago, so I thought I'd give some helpful hints on the hardest thing {to me!}: the invitations.


Helpful Hint #1: The wedding invitation should have the monogram of those issuing the invitation (if you choose to use a monogram).

For example, my invitation came from my parents, and said, "Mr. and Mrs. Ben R. Ogletree, III request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter..." Therefore, any monogram on the invitation should be an "O," for my parents' last name. Not "W," which was my future last name. You'll have plenty of times for your new monogram, trust me! {My house looks like it threw up W's. :)}

Helpful Hint #2: All invitations do not need RSVP cards.

We were married at 2 p.m. and did not feed people a sit-down meal. We had cake, punch and light refreshments. If you don't need a headcount of people because you're not feeding them, you don't need an RSVP card. I can't tell you how many people said to me, "Um, I didn't get an RSVP card...?" That's because there didn't need to be one. {And it saved us lots of money on cards and postage!}

Helpful Hint #3: For a traditional wedding invitation, spell out numbers and capitalize proper nouns only.

Helpful Hint #4: Spell the name of your guests correctly.

I recently got a wedding inviation addressed to "Mr. & Mrs. Brandon Witacre" {to the wrong address}. I was a little taken aback. I understand that accidents happen {especially when using a third-party calligrapher}, but I thought, "Do they not care enough about us attending to spell our last name correctly?"

Helpful Hint #5: Use the correct social titles when sending an invitation.

I forgot to put the "Dr." in front of Brandon's doctor uncle's name on their wedding invitation, and I got a note back from his aunt letting me know so. Where the invitation should have said, "Dr. and Mrs. Greer Whitacre," I had the calligrapher put, "Mr. and Mrs. Greer Whitacre." At first, I was very offended that she would say something to me about it. However, I realized that he endured lots of schooling for that title, so it needed to be addressed. And then I was embarrassed, because I used my same list for my Christmas cards. Oops.

Helpful Hint #6: As tempting as it is, don't use computer labels on your inviations. Christmas cards, yes. Wedding invitations, no.

I understand that many people cannot afford or simply don't like the style of a calligrapher. That was one thing I chose to spend money on {was it the smartest thing, probably not} but that's what I wanted. I have a friend who took a class and learned calligraphy and is addressing her own invitations. But when I receive an invitation with a computer-printed label on it, I think that I am just one of 1 million people getting this invitation and my presence isn't that important. It's flattering to receive a nice, handwritten invitation, even if it's just your every day handwriting.

Thanks to Emily Post for the help on this post and to Martha Stewart for the photo.

4 comments:

  1. Love this post. Hopefully I'll be needing to think about wedding details soon. :)

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  2. I hope so, too! Can't wait to live it vicariously through you. :) Let me know if you have any questions when the planning begins!!!

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  3. Love love love this! I wish I could send this to some of the people I've received invitations from recently- ha!

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